I have a small adoption dilemma. This truly is small: no concerns about regret, privacy . . . just a relatively unimportant question of boundaries. Here’s the setup.
When we visit Cricket’s family in the Emerald City, we usually eat lunch at their place (the last few times, I’ve brought it) and then go out to dinner somewhere. They’ve always chosen the restaurant, reasonably enough, but they seem to take our preferences into consideration—for example, I’d mentioned last year in an email that we were having no luck finding decent Mexican food in town, so last visit they took us to a Mexican restaurant. Well, I read an online paper for their city, and recently saw a couple of reviews for restaurants I would love to eat at. We’re never in the Emerald City except to visit them—in the future, we may make a couple of day trips to do things that wouldn’t interest them, but not in the foreseeable future. Both of the places I’m interested in are cheap, and I believe that both would meet their dietary requirements. Am I allowed to make a suggestion?
I asked the Mister, and he said that maybe I could bring it up casually if they ask while we’re there, but realistically, with the way they like to plan things, I’d probably have to include the name, address, and details in an email a couple of weeks before the visit for there to be any chance of a meal there working out. So: Can I make a suggestion/request, or is that rude? I know that I wouldn’t mind if they picked a place they wanted to eat in Stumptown unless it was expensive, but that rule of thumb isn’t always enough, especially as I am a little strange.