Dates

Ruth put up a thirty-second video of Cricket on Facebook this weekend; he’s not walking like a baby anymore, instead totally confidently wandering around. I watched it, and I felt sad and for some reason angry, and I thought, Don’t come here. So clearly no hormonal problems here. Part of what’s going on, I suspect, is that it’s been two and a half weeks since I sent her that longish, explanatory email, and I haven’t heard anything back. Because my husband and I are wicked people, we actually placed bets on how long it would take her to write back, but she’s passed both those dates now (mine was Monday). We’re picking new ones—the winner gets to add something frivolous to the grocery list!

Part of the problem is surely in my head: I crave Sour Patch Kids, I threw up a few times, I got really upset about a documentary last night, and on Saturday I spent several minutes trying to unlock our mailbox. The hormones, they are affecting me. But it usually worse-case takes them two weeks to respond to an email, and now that we’re past that, I am feeling pretty grouchy. Facebook has been the opposite of helpful in this respect: I can see “Ruth is now friends with Tubby Stallone! (one hour ago)” and “Ruth likes Sandwiches without Borders (eight minutes ago)” and know that she is online, doing internet things, and not emailing me. She OF COURSE has a perfect right to spend her time as she pleases, whether that be on internet Sudoku or picking her nose, but right now I don’t know whether I believe in the June visit, and would like to hear something from them on the topic of me/us/them/him. Our visit was tentatively scheduled for the 26th—my new date for the bet with Mr. Book will be June 20. And if we don’t hear anything by then, I’ll assume the visit is cancelled.

I keep thinking that I should ask readers for movie recommendations, but I’m awfully picky and unpredictable; my loved ones have mostly given up. It’s worse than just knowing that I may hate whatever you picked—at least with the family and close friends, I feel compelled to explain to you why I hated it, not in a mean way, but in sort of an earnest, apologetic, detailed kind of way. And sometimes I want to have that conversation five or six times. But if anyone wants to risk it, here are three movies I love—Girl on the Bridge, 3 Iron, and The Five Obstructions—and three movies I hate—Harold and Maude, My Fair Lady, and Dead Poets Society.

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5 thoughts on “Dates

  1. Io non Ho Paura. It’s got subtitles ( I dont know how tolerant you are of them…I know some people dont have the patience but somehow I think you might ) 🙂 . It’s in Italian, but its FABULOUS. Truly a beautiful film. In English the title would be ” I am not afraid”. It’s beautiful… but I cry everytime I see it. So..proceed with caution haha.

    Regarding Ruth…wow. Its possible that they are trying really hard to craft the perfect response to your email. Or they just haven’t a clue on how to react and are taking time to compose themselves. I understand your frustration…but try not to think about it ( I am the Queen of dwelling, so I know its easier said than done.) Focus on yourself!

  2. hmm. first, I love that whoever wins the bet gets to add something frivolous to the grocery list. but I’m so sorry you even have to have that bet at all. and you’re right about her online presence. with all the updates, it’s hard to say well then she’s just so busy she has no time to send an email. but maybe amanda is right and they are trying to respond appropriately and just don’t yet know how.

    and about those movie recommendations, I’m going to have to ponder that awhile. I used to see a lot of movies and I don’t know the ones you liked, so I’ll have to think about that awhile. I love that you like to explain in detail why you don’t like a certain movie though.

  3. “…and know that she is online, doing internet things, and not emailing me. She OF COURSE has a perfect right to spend her time as she pleases, whether that be on internet Sudoku or picking her nose, but right now I don’t know whether I believe in the June visit, and would like to hear something from them on the topic of me/us/them/him.”

    OMG – this one always kills me. And not just with Dee! It’s with people in general. When I read someone saying, “I meant to write my kids birth Mom an update, I’ve just been SOOOO busy” I ALWAYS think, “Well, stop blogging or forum-ing about how you’re too busy to email her, and well, EMAIL HER!!!!”

    I just always think about how much time most people spend on random websites and it drives me batty to think that they’re too “busy” to contact someone they’re due to contact (either way – birth parents to aparents, aparents to birth parents, my mom to me!! haha – whomever!)

  4. Here is my list! Cough, I mean my elderly aunt’s list. And the last entry, ahem, seemingly comes from my six-year-old cousin’s list circa 1993.

    I will take absolutely no offense if you don’t check out these movies OR if you post about how much you dislike them! =) I haven’t seen the three movies you liked so I will keep an eye out for them.

    cheesy: Outrageous Fortune
    mystery: Murder on the Orient Express
    farce: Murder by Death
    comedy: Same Time Next Year, Three Men and a Little Lady, the old Pink Panthers
    drama: Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner, As Good as It Gets, Terms of Endearment, Shadowlands
    fantasy: Return to Oz
    kids: A Muppet Family Christmas

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