No names on this blog are real names.
I am Susie Book, a birth mother in an open adoption; my placed son, Cricket, was born in December of 2008. His adoptive mothers are Ruth and Nora. Our relationship is not a close one, and I have likely not improved the situation by moving a thousand miles away. Cricket’s moms are
in the pool, looking to adopt again. getting divorced, dating new people, and giving up on the second adoption that they’d started.
I married Cricket’s birth father when Cricket was six months old; we are now parenting Cricket’s full brothers, Joey (born in November of 2010) and Kit (born in June of 2012). Both Mr. Book and myself regret the placement, but do not share that regret with Ruth or Nora. We’re also angry with them, as we feel that we’re watching them squeeze the adoption closed, but all we can do is keep reaching out in polite and appropriate ways.